Dating after divorce is overwhelming at the best of times; you have been out of the dating game for years, maybe decades, and you’ve forgotten how it works. What’s more is that due to modern times, gone are the days of meeting people at your hometown’s nightclub, and here comes a load of new dating apps and sites which have changed the rhythm and culture of dating forever. No worries, Match is here to help. No matter your age, situation or location, Match is made for you. Thanks to Ireland’s beautifully diverse population and Match’s large community of singles, finding your special someone after divorce is made easier. Match’s services are open to everyone and offer a variety of selections and options for successful dating.
Thanks to its AI-powered search engine, Match is a great, effective dating site for divorced men and women. Once you log on, the search engine uses filters which allow you to narrow down your search results by specifying your desired partner’s romantic situation, age, profession, gender and location.
Another great thing about Match is that the search engine’s artificial intelligence allows you to check out the geographical proximity of your match. You therefore won’t only find an older or younger match but one that doesn’t live too far away. Many find-a-divorcee sites might seem dubious and most times, where there’s a site where people are looking for one attribute, in this case solely a divorced match, it isn’t realistic. With Match’s finessed and accurate search engine many of these issues are avoided where they can be and a diverse selection of requirements and statistics are provided.
You may be wondering; how does divorced dating work? How do I muster up the courage and start dating after divorce? We have a few tips for you:
Wait till your divorce is final
Separation or divorce is an emotionally draining time. Although it might be tempting to start dating quickly with positive attention and motivation, this distraction can actually inhibit you from the healing work that is necessary to move forward from the trauma in a healthy way and thus start with a fresh slate with someone in the future.
Set Reasonable Expectations
In the infamous 90s sitcom, Friends, Ross was labelled as “the divorce guy” because he had a tendency to get carried away very quickly from relationship to relationship. This story is a microcosm for many people, particularly the romantic types. Remember, you don’t have to enter into a date assuming you’ll get married. Instead, you can look at it as an experience to learn more about yourself and the new life you’re creating for yourself moving forward. This isn’t to say that your first relationship after divorce will be a rebound: you simply have to treat it as the unique entity that it is.
Be Honest About Your Past
One of the beauties about dating with Match is that both singles know all the basic information about their match before the date – so no shocked faces! The match you meet on Match knows you’re divorced and they showed up anyway, so they’re clearly cool with it. You want to find someone who shares your values, and who will like you for who you are so honesty about your past is key here.
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Know Your Priorities
A silver lining with divorce is that when it comes to dating after divorce, you know exactly what personality traits you don’t want. You’ve had the most intricate and painful dress rehersal when it comes to your romantic life. So be honest with yourself – if you sense an off vibe after a couple of dates, consider that it may be time to move on and look for someone else.
Another question worth asking is whether you’re interested in dating other divorcees or non-divorcees. Thanks to Match’s filters you can choose whether to look for one, the other or both. Match helps singles find and build meaningful, solid and long lasting relationships. A meaningful relationship starts with a strong foundation which, for some, stems from a shared experience of divorce – it is, after all, a form of trauma which no doubt will change the way you date and develop romantic relationships post-divorce. On the other hand, dating after divorce can be a shaky and nerve-wracking experience and if both parties are taking this approach to dating, then it may be lacking one who is less scared and more likely to make bold moves confidently to move the relationship along in its beginning. The only way to find out is through trial and error – so get searching with Match!
All too often, divorcees share an irrational fear as they begin to date after divorce: why would anyone want to date someone who has been divorced? The fear stems from concerns that you are a failure at relationships, you’re damaged goods and no one will ever love you again. But these fears are exactly that – irrational. They are not stemmed in reality, only in your anxieties which come from a spiral of worry and have no backbone. Divorce doesn’t have much of a say in how a person’s future will turn out, and a divorced person can find another love and live happily ever after with them. Sure, as the relationship gets more serious, many possible factors may need to be taken into consideration by both parties but the key to making it work is clear, open, and honest communication about any concerns or potential areas of misunderstanding or worry.
A great partner will be respectful of your situation and any connections to your past marriage and any children in the picture. However, in order for this respect to occur, both parties must express themselves truthfully so the two can work on making the situation as comfortable and functional as possible.
Match understands the unique challenges divorcees are presented with when it comes to dating after divorce and is well equipped to help you find the partner you’ve been waiting for.